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Why is it easy to not remember to do simple but important things? I wonder. Why do we lose touch on the nice gestures we did in the past, which our loved one enjoyed? How come, ‘I love you’, ‘You look good’, ‘The food is tasty’, ‘Thank you’, ‘I am sorry’ are statements one spouse yearns to hear from the other? Why have the love notes stopped, and sweet texts ceased? Is it possible love has ebbed low? Maybe not. It is possible the need to express love has been taken for granted?
Three months ago I jarred to reality with an indictment from my wife: ‘It’s been a long while since you wrote me a love note or poem’.
I do not consider myself a poet but I do have some poems I can boast of. One simple but effective way I express my affection for Njeb is through writing. Writing comes naturally to me. But for some inexplicable reason during that period I slacked. In response to the indictment, I was defensive and full of excuses (I consider myself a Romantic!). After a while, truth and reason prevailed – I may be doing other things well, but in the area in question I was wanting. Acknowledging that I am guilty as charged, I swallowed my Romantic’s pride, took back my flimsy excuses, and with new resolve I set to put things right. See below my six-line conciliatory piece.
Mylady, without you, life is meaningless;
so intricate like a game of chess.
Away from you my heart is mournful;
so bereft and gravely pitiful.
To lovely times we had, I look backwards;
to better times ahead I look forward.
Not a masterpiece, but my wife was so pleased. There is power in simple things. Simple acts consistently done, in love, yield powerful results.
In love relationships, it is easy to forget to do that which pleases your spouse or fiancé/ fiancée. The drift from lavish expression of love to poor expression love is slow and subtle, but sure. My antidote for this is to ask my wife periodically, “What am I doing well?” “What do I need to do better?” “Is there anything I used to do that I no longer do?” You will receive helpful feedback when you ask such questions. Accept it and work with it.
What ideas can you add, that will prevent the forgetting simple but important things?