‘Soft words break the bone’. The words of the wise Jewish Monarch, Solomon David (The Bible, Proverbs 25:15)
Last week I experienced the truth of this sage statement. It was a few minutes past 10 PM, when my wife stepped into the living room where I was working on my laptop. ’After we said goodnight to each other, she asked,
‘Gem, when are you coming to bed? ‘By midnight I answered.’
She took my right hand in both of hers, looked at me wistfully and said in a gentle voice, ‘It’s so nice to go to bed together.’
You see, most nights I go to bed at least one hour after Njeb has gone to bed. The time is spent either working or reading. Though my wife’s statement hardly came across as a criticism or accusation, it was thought provoking. I heard loud and clear what she did not even put in words – ‘I heard between the lines.’ What I heard her say, with my mind and not my ears is, ‘We hardly go to bed together. I’d love for us to go to bed together.’
After I mulled it over, two days later I informed Njeb that I have decided for us to go to bed together four times in a week. It is not an easy decision, but a critical one. Besides, I should learn, to do without consistently bringing work home and create other times for reading. These tasks are nothing compared to marital bliss. I resolve not to be like the insensitive guy in this pix.
The idea of going to bed together may seem unimportant or not a big deal for some, but it is for me, because it means a lot to my wife!
It is very important to learn to listen, not just hear what our loved ones or those around us are saying. Learn to listen enough to catch what has not been said. This is the art of ‘hearing between the lines.’
I have not perfected this ‘art’ but I have resolved to do better than I am doing.
What do you think?