Recently my wife prepared dinner, a meal of Irish potato fries and egg sauce. There was onions in the sauce! Yes its no big deal to have onions in your food. Yet it’s a big deal because this is the first time I would eat onions in a meal for the past thirty four weeks.
You see my wife is pregnant with our second baby. One of the untouchables, in terms of edibles, for her during pregnancy is onions. It makes her nauseous and vomit with prolonged, painful retching. So our meals have been without onions, and it will be without it until she puts to bed. Since she didn’t feel like eating dinner that day, she thoughtfully prepared it with onions, for me and our tot.
Pregnancy is challenging for the woman, and can be for her husband. Yet every pregnant woman needs support and encouragement, especially from their husbands.
I have struggled to with the notion of publishing this post since May, 2014. You are reading it not because I, the husband of a woman who has been pregnant twice, and a father of one, know everything about how to support a pregnant woman, but because I believe that at least one person will find sharing from my experience, albeit brief, beneficial.
Pregnancy is a wonderful time but one replete with anxieties. It is a period of ambivalence – nine months checkered with, fears and excitement; the worry of whether the unborn is healthy and will turn out fine etc. alternating with the awe of carrying and growing another human! Because a pregnant woman, in addition to worry, has to deal with back pain, swelling (edema), stretch marks, nausea (morning sickness) and fatigue, she needs support, emotionally, physically and intellectually.
Without being insensitive to…
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