How To (Not) Show Up

Eighty percent of success is showing up.

There is more to this statement than meets the eye mind. It is pregnant with wisdom that is immediately, not apparent.

Therefore, this Woody Allen statement should not be vitiated with a literal interpretation.

Yes, you could show up, but

  • Late
  • In the wrong place
  • Shabby and sloppy
  • Unexcited (with a not-feeling-like-it mood)
  • Uninvited
  • Unfit
  • Unprepared and clueless etc

If you want a ‘how to’ for showing up foolish, the list above will work perfectly. However, there is no way showing up this way leads to success. Except in Happily Ever After fantasies.

On the other hand, showing up:

  • Punctual
  • At the right place
  • Smart and organised
  • Motivated (even if you don’t feel like it)
  • Invited
  • Capable
  • Prepared and informed

Sets you up for success.

Just showing up, is showing up, foolish.

Learn from the Boys Scouts. Be prepared! Always. Do your best to always show up prepared. Even if you experience failure. The failure and regret that results from a lack of preparation is deeper, by far, than the failure experienced even after preparation. I can relate.

Whatever it is you have decided to do, keep at it. Keep showing up, in spite of circumstances and feelings. You will see it will be worth it, in time.

The task may be insignificant; the person involved may seem unimportant; the cause may not seem worthwhile. Still show up.

It may not come naturally, yet make a habit of showing up. More often than not, it is a struggle for me to keep showing up on this blog with a post every week. I strive to keep at it because I know it is worth the effort.

But remember, just showing up, is showing up, foolish.

You make the most of any day when you show up prepared for that day.

Muse-worthy Quote: Arrogance of Success

Today, the level of technological advancement is such that innovations are churned out daily. Any product or idea short of revolutionary, will easily be stale tomorrow. Even revolutionary ideas are not guaranteed timeless shelf lives.

Everything new, does get old. In time.

Yesterday’s education is not sufficient for tomorrow’s challenges or opportunities. Just as meals eaten yesterday will not give you nourishment for the future.

That is just the way it is.

Every day brings opportunities, to grow, develop and improve. Take it.

Because things will never remain the same, you have to either evolve, adapt or make way for those who will.

To think that yesterday’s success will always remain relevant tomorrow is delusion.

It is arrogant.

Make the most of every day! Make the most of today!

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Simple & Important, Yet Overlooked: A Solution

Why is it easy to not remember to do simple but important things? I wonder. Why do we lose touch on the nice gestures we did in the past, which our loved ones or friends enjoyed? How come, ‘I love you’, ‘You look good’, ‘The food is tasty’, ‘Thank you’, ‘I am sorry’ are statements one spouse yearns to hear from the other?

Why have the love notes stopped, and sweet texts ceased? Why don’t yesterday’s simple courtesies come naturally today?Is it possible love has ebbed low? Maybe not.

It is possible the need to express love has been taken for granted?

I remember a time when I was jarred to reality with an indictment from my wife: ‘It’s been a long while since you wrote me a love note or poem’.

I do not consider myself a poet but I do have some poems I can boast of. (You can get an eBook that contains some of my poems here.)

Writing is one simple but effective way I express my affection for Njeb is through writing. Writing comes naturally to me. But for some inexplicable reason during that period I slacked.

In response to the indictment, I was defensive and full of excuses (futile efforts at maintaining my pride as a Romantic!). After a while, truth and reason prevailed – I may be doing other things well, but in the area in question I was wanting. Acknowledging that I am guilty as charged, I swallowed my Romantic’s pride, took back my flimsy excuses, and with new resolve I set to put things right. See below my six-line conciliatory piece.

Mylady, without you, life is meaningless;
so intricate like a game of chess.
Away from you my heart is mournful;
so bereft and gravely pitiful.
To lovely times we had, I look backwards;
to better times ahead I look forward.

Not a masterpiece, but my wife was so pleased. There is power in simple things. Simple acts consistently done, in love, yield powerful results.

In every aspect of life, it is easy to forget to do that which is simple but important. The drift is slow and subtle, but sure. With my wife, I gradually drifted from lavish expression of love to almost no intentional love expression.

My antidote for this is to ask my wife periodically, “What am I doing well?” “What do I need to do better?” “Is there anything I used to do that I no longer do?”

Simplistic right. Yes, a simple remedy for forgetting to do the simple but important things of life. But it works.

These prompts for feedback are relevant in all aspects of human relationships. They will help you mine valuable information that will improve your interpersonal skills.

Try it. Ask your friend, spouse or sibling(s) for feedback today.

What ideas can you add, that will prevent the forgetting of simple but important things?

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