Simple & Important, Yet Overlooked: A Solution

Why is it easy to not remember to do simple but important things? I wonder. Why do we lose touch on the nice gestures we did in the past, which our loved ones or friends enjoyed? How come, ‘I love you’, ‘You look good’, ‘The food is tasty’, ‘Thank you’, ‘I am sorry’ are statements one spouse yearns to hear from the other?

Why have the love notes stopped, and sweet texts ceased? Why don’t yesterday’s simple courtesies come naturally today?Is it possible love has ebbed low? Maybe not.

It is possible the need to express love has been taken for granted?

I remember a time when I was jarred to reality with an indictment from my wife: ‘It’s been a long while since you wrote me a love note or poem’.

I do not consider myself a poet but I do have some poems I can boast of. (You can get an eBook that contains some of my poems here.)

Writing is one simple but effective way I express my affection for Njeb is through writing. Writing comes naturally to me. But for some inexplicable reason during that period I slacked.

In response to the indictment, I was defensive and full of excuses (futile efforts at maintaining my pride as a Romantic!). After a while, truth and reason prevailed – I may be doing other things well, but in the area in question I was wanting. Acknowledging that I am guilty as charged, I swallowed my Romantic’s pride, took back my flimsy excuses, and with new resolve I set to put things right. See below my six-line conciliatory piece.

Mylady, without you, life is meaningless;
so intricate like a game of chess.
Away from you my heart is mournful;
so bereft and gravely pitiful.
To lovely times we had, I look backwards;
to better times ahead I look forward.

Not a masterpiece, but my wife was so pleased. There is power in simple things. Simple acts consistently done, in love, yield powerful results.

In every aspect of life, it is easy to forget to do that which is simple but important. The drift is slow and subtle, but sure. With my wife, I gradually drifted from lavish expression of love to almost no intentional love expression.

My antidote for this is to ask my wife periodically, “What am I doing well?” “What do I need to do better?” “Is there anything I used to do that I no longer do?”

Simplistic right. Yes, a simple remedy for forgetting to do the simple but important things of life. But it works.

These prompts for feedback are relevant in all aspects of human relationships. They will help you mine valuable information that will improve your interpersonal skills.

Try it. Ask your friend, spouse or sibling(s) for feedback today.

What ideas can you add, that will prevent the forgetting of simple but important things?

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Muse-worthy Quote: First Perception

It is said, first impressions last. True. Should it? Always?

I think not. Because it is the tendency for people to always put their best foot forward. What we always project is not really who we are. Your initial perception about something or someone may be based on incomplete or false information.

There is always more to the story.

Things are not always what they seem.

Not all that glitters is gold.

I am not saying first perception or impression is not important. If you are considering someone or something don’t let it be the sole basis of your decision. If you are giving an impression, be authentic. Do not project who you are not.

To make the most of everyday, be authentic everyday.

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Muse-worthy Quote: Mobile Destination

Are you focused? Are your everyday choices guided by values that stem from deep convictions? If your answer to both questions is yes, it is likely that you know what you want, and know where you are going. Then your destination will not be mobile.

Living without values and convictions, results to lack of focus. There can be no focus when what you want is constantly changing. It is like going on a journey where you keep changing your destination everyday. You will never arrive.

Sadly, many of us live out our their days travelling life to a mobile destination.